Self-Esteem/Confidence

"Confidence is 10% hard work and 90% Delusion" -- Tina Fey

 

 

That is probably one of the most inspiring quotes ever since it basically states that I'm not confident only because I'm not delusional, it's not wonderful but I'll take it because it's accurate, applicable and Tina Fey said it and let's face it, that's all that matters. I do want to point out that I have a lack of confidence not a lack of self esteem, in fact, I'm just teeming with self esteem, if I wasn't, I wouldn't be walking around everyday in an obnoxious Captain America hoodie. And no they are NOT the same thing.

 

Self-Esteem- A feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities.

 

Confidence- Faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way.

 

I have a great sense of self esteem, you see, I respect my opinions, my rights, and my personal options as an individual and because of that, I am really aware of the need to award that same respect not only to me but also to everyone around me. You see a great lack of this in people with a lack of self esteem, however, these people generally have an abundance of confidence which is where I think that most tiffs start, in the area between respect and belief. There are good things with both of them but like most things there are a lot of negative consequences to having just one or the other. Unfortunatly thanks to whatever all the reasons that a person has more than the other, I beleive that in many cases it's nearly impossible to display both at the same time and with the same amount of merit and that's okay, the first part of loving yourself is being able to accept some of the more innevitable traits that one is born with, because some things, not all but some, you can't choose and it ends up being a mixture of environment, genetics, and chemical reactions.

 

Of course, that could just be the high self esteem of mine talking since I do tend to have a hightened respect for my needs and emotional whims, to bad I can't display that respect confidently but oh well, I have my whole head to express that side of my confidence and you can't have everything in life. Seriously, though, it's F****** cold outside again, how am I suposed to enjoy anything again today when I can't even get a proper breathe of fresh air without getting icesicles lodged in my lungs. Getting really sick of this up and down weather, I can have respect for my own emtional shortcomings but that's just not going to happen with the whims of weather systems, I'm just far too biased towards the euphoria that comes with warm, sunny weather that makes you burn and sweat.

 

I generally like to think of myself as an optomist, however, I can't in good coscience stay true to that belief because thanks to my self esteem, I am not burdened with a boatload of delusions about the world. I really am talented at separating fantasy world with the real world (Whichever I choose to stay in most of the time has no effect on whether I can separate the two worlds) and if I am confident about at least one thing, it's that we must always keep the two worlds apart, basically, It really annoys me when people don't stay in the real world and they confuse the lines between; it's disrespectful to both of them. Therefore, based on my confidence in the accuracy of my self esteem, I conclude that I am a realist, since I'm certainly not a pessimist and I am far to aware of the boundaries between real and fantasy to be a dedicated optomist.

I don't know why I am talking about such a off the wall subject today but I have just been thinking about the connection between Self esteem and confidense ever since I looked up "Tina Fey Quotes" This morning and that specific quote popped up, so, there's my superficial analysis of the difference between the two commonly confused terms.