On Connecting With People

I've found that I'm not really that great with connecting with other human beings, which in all honestly can mess a lot of things up, in life, love and personal acceptance; It's hard to understand where you're going if you haven't had interactions with someone else. Above all people need people and I'm no different, however that doesn't help me, because I'm great at talking to people I just don't really need to, which is a serious conflict. I want to know lots of people, I'm interested in personalities and interests and I love adding to the list of people I know (The people who add depth to my story) But I don't have to, I've never had issues with being alone, in fact, I probably prefer it which is something that I love about myself, unfortunately, like every other human, I get lonely after a while and it's necessary to connect. Connections are like vitamins, we can be okay without them for a while but eventually we're going to need a boost to stay at our best.

First of all, the most important thing is to take care of yourself, okay, we can't help anybody else if we're a fragile mess and sometimes to get out of this state we have to just focus on what we need to function properly and connecting with our fellow race is a very specific need in order to be at our best. So, basically, if your trying to find an excuse to force yourself to talk to someone new or to be seen in a group.

 Just keep telling yourself: 

This is for me. 

This is for the people that I love. 

This is for my future relations. 

I can't be an island all the time.

 I can.

 I am able to say the first word.

 I am the master of my own fate.

 I'm going to say "Hi" so that I don't cry myself to sleep tonight. 

Basically, tell yourself anything that you have to in order to make yourself move forward socially, and when I say "Socially" I am using that term loosely, any relation that you have with a person that you didn't know the day before is moving yourself forward "Socially". You can't make a socially weary person a butterfly in a day, a week, a month, and not even in a year. It's hard to move forward but that doesn't mean it's not possible, you're a dynamic person and you have the ability to surprise the people around you, its the one thing us anxiety ridden people have in life; we hold the cards of our life to ourselves so whenever it's convenient or satisfying we can whip out the ace or king that we've been saving for a rainy day and they'll never see it coming. 

Anyway, make it a goal this year, maybe? Try to talk to a new person everyday because the world needs you at your best, you're an important part of the people around you's lives and it's worth taking the time out of the day to think about what you need and if you need human connection then go out and get it, you confident motherfucker! 

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